Phoebe Buffay and her twin sister, Ursula, are the result of a sexual relationship between Phoebe Abbott, Frank Buffay, and Lily Buffay. Phoebe Abbott wasn’t ready to be a mother as she didn’t mean to get pregnant, so Lily and Frank adopted both twins and raised them together. Frank abandoned Lily and the twins soon after, and then later married another unknown woman. The children’s step-father went to prison, and Lily committed suicide by carbon monoxide poisoning when putting her head in an oven. Phoebe was living on her own homeless on the streets of New York City by the age of 14. Phoebe buffay oh my eyes poster. When she was 18, she lived in a burnt-out Buick LeSabre.
She never attended high school or college, but she met behind a dumpster with a small group of three to learn French. She became fluent in speaking it, as evidenced in “The One Where Joey Speaks French”. She also speaks some Italian, and has a short conversation in Italian with Joey’s grandmother, Nonnie in “The One Where Ross Can’t Flirt”. Her language skills are treated somewhat inconsistently.